Children trapped in a Materialistic world!
I am wondering if us parents too, are just as trapped?
I am a guilty parent, I hold my hands up, my children have a lot of toys and possessions, they don't have everything, but yes they have TOO much and not enough of My time!
I never had much growing up, though we sure used our imaginations and also on looking back, there was not a fraction of the variety of toys that are available today, anyone remember space hoppers, tiny tears dolls, it was a Sindy doll or Barbie, Lego and Mecano, oh dear am I showing my age?
We spent a lot of time outside, for there was nothing like the computer games you have now, the variety of trash television programs etc
Am I caught between what the children want and what they need!
I know you can't buy love, but if all the other children at school have certain items, isn't it cruel to not let my child have it too, or do we make a stand against peer pressure, commercialism, easy for me to say, for I won't be the child playing with all the others yet looking in from a outside position from not having the same!
I keep trying to have a clear out, sort all the toys, we do live in such a compact home, that needs must really, but now I can start to look at it in a different light, swapping toys for more of my time one to one, am thinking this I must do!
My children watch telly a fair amount, but also love being outside, the only problem being it just doesn't feel as safe to let them out of our sight, its easy for them to go and play indoors, whilst I am busy doing stuff, I mean they have a lot of toys to choose from don't they!
But what the reports are saying is the children are crying out for parents to spend more quality time specially outside with our children!
I have a neighbour with 2 children aged 8 & 10 years and its the first time this week I have noticed her playing with her children, they were all playing football and she was the goalie, that is something not noticed before, we have lived next door to each other for 7 years now!
I am just as bad in all honesty, I was dancing around the kitchen the other day, singing with my children, they looked totally bemused and loved it, so how come I don't do it more often and just set out to entertain my children myself, for its all possible!
In theory anything is possible within reason, but to set aside time solely for my children will be my goal, no rushing to answer the phone, no quick browse at the laptop, will start timing it, say 20 minutes on the floor/out in the garden and build the times up.
To get rid of half the toys would be so great, it would make us not feel half as cramped where we are and then having some space to play, the children will be happier for sure, but I must sneak the toys away, hoping they won't notice some going missing, now where to start..............
OH NO, the man in the Red suit with a beard is due at our home in December, must block the Chimney, lock the doors!